At some point in our lives, as women, most of us have felt it—that deep, unshakable longing. The longing for a man who sees you for who you truly are. Someone gentle yet strong, who listens, who opens doors, who makes you feel safe, cherished, and adored. The longing for that one person who brings out the best in you and loves you wholeheartedly.
It’s a shared dream. But for so many of us, it feels out of reach, as if we’re searching for something that doesn’t exist. Why is that? Why does it seem so hard to find the love we long for?
The answer lies not in who we’re looking for, but in how we treat ourselves.
Your Energy Holds the Key
Everything in life is energy. And the energy you radiate comes from the relationship you have with yourself. Think of your energy as a stream of electrons flowing through you, each one carrying information. This information isn’t random—it reflects how you, as the navigator of your life, treat yourself.
When you prioritize everyone else’s needs above your own, when you push aside your dreams, or when you neglect your own well-being, your energy reflects that neglect. It’s like your electrons are saying, “I am being ignored.” And in turn, the reality you attract mirrors this neglect.
Love Begins With You
If you want a man who sees your worth, you must first see your own worth. If you want someone who listens to you, you must first listen to yourself. If you want someone who opens doors for you, you must open doors for yourself—figuratively and literally.
This isn’t just a cliché; it’s how energy works. Your energy cannot attract a reality of love and respect if the information it carries reflects self-neglect or self-doubt.
A Personal Example
For years, I longed for someone to pour love and attention into me. But looking back, I wasn’t pouring that love and attention into myself. I was prioritizing everything and everyone else, and my energy was scattered and drained.
It wasn’t until I started to take care of my own energy—making heartfelt meals for myself, resting when I needed to, pursuing my dreams—that something shifted. My energy began to carry a new message: “I am worthy of love and care.” And with time, I began to notice the people and opportunities showing up in my life reflected that.
Love isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you embody. And when you pour love into yourself, you naturally attract people and experiences that reflect that love back to you.
So ask yourself: How do I treat my own energy stream? What message are my electrons carrying?
If you want to feel cherished and appreciated, start by cherishing and appreciating yourself. The longing you feel isn’t something external to chase—it’s an invitation to turn inward, to realign with the love that’s already within you. And then you can start to experience it outside of you.
Here’s to creating our own reality,
Anke Joanne.